Hello unemployment…goodbye two-faced bitchiness!

I found out last Thursday that I’m going to be out of a job come January. I mean, we knew some people would be leaving (we had to interview for our jobs), but I didn’t think I’d be leaving. After all, this is my second stint in the job (they’d already let me go once, after work dried up, only to take me back on a few months later when things picked up again), and I’d been there longer than the others. They liked me there … or so I thought.

How wrong can you be?

However, after the initial shock and disappointment I’m actually feeling relieved. Of course, the worry and uncertainty remains – like how are we going to make ends meet, pay the mortgage, enjoy Christmas this year? But what it did do was make me realise how much I take my wife for granted, and this whole business has made me realise how lucky I am to have her.

She works full-time, teaches an after school drama class, and on top of this we have two kids under four to contend with. During the week we’re like two single-parents, dove-tailing between shifts, a quick hello at 7am, and again at 10pm, and in between I’m trying to grab an hour or two to write, or record my music. We do this because we want the best for our kids, because they’re the most important things in our life, and because we want to be financially able to support them.

The most important things in my life

The most important things in my life

And that is the reason I’m relieved that – in a few weeks time – I won’t have to go back into that toxic environment again.

If you’ve worked in any kind of office, anywhere, then you’ll probably know exactly what I’m talking about. Probably my unwillingness to tell tales, stab people in the back, and bitch to the top brass about others may have put me at a disadvantage compared to my ‘colleagues.’ But hey, I’m glad I never compromised my own principles. 

I’m not going to bore you with the details, and I don’t want this post to be full of negativity. I’m so done with that. It’s all irrelevant – I’ve got too many positives in my life to worry about it. It was only ever a day job anyway.

I’m going to make sure we have the best christmas ever, even if it is on a budget this year. I’m going to enjoy my time with my family and surround myself with friends… and, yes, I actually did make one or two really good friends there.

And I’m even more determined to succeed in my writing… so that I won’t have to work in a place like that again.

17 thoughts on “Hello unemployment…goodbye two-faced bitchiness!

    • Absolutely, Melissa… I hope you’re right. In any case, I intend not to leave fate to chance. It’s time to go out there and get it! Looking forward to seeing you guys for birthday or christmas x

  1. Your children will have an amazing holiday because they have two parents who love them. That is more important than gifts they will play with for a little while.
    My parents were very poor and I never received more than one small gift each year but I always remembered Christmas as a time of family and love.

  2. Life really is beautiful and brings us so many riches if we can see it. I wish you and your family all the best wishes I can, and I hope you have a lovely Christmas. The love of our family and friends is what makes us rich…enjoy Darren and thank you for your friendship 🙂

    • Thanks Louise 🙂

      The best thing about blogging is the friendships you can forge with relative strangers. It’s good to see you drop in – you’ve been a welcome friend since I began this journey.

      p.s. Haven’t seen you blogging much lately, which is a shame.

  3. Could say lots of airy things like: better things to come, this is the time to take your writing seriously. They could both be true, but the thing you need to commend yourself for is recognizing that you were in a toxic environment and that the relief is real. When we hang onto a relationship with work that’s killing us nothing different can happen – nothing can change. Good on you for choosing the freedom to reassess.

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  5. It is scary to without a job, but i am a firm believer in working at the right job. I think happiness at work will soak into other areas of life, and vice versa. I’m sure things will turn out well for you. Love the pic of your fam!

    • Thanks, Kate. I secured a new job a couple of days after posting this so all is well at the moment. This whole episode has given me more drive to get to where I want to be in life.

      Hope you have a good Christmas 🙂

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